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Originally Posted by supershifty
When I was going through puberty and into my mid 20's I had a very explosive temper, I mean very violent and would "snap" easily without warning. I was either calm as a church mouse or full on tilt, had no control whatsoever.
I'd "black out" and not remember a thing of what I had done while in a fit of rage. 9 times out of 10 I regretted my actions.
I'd think about my actions with much regret for what I had done. Guilt for what I did is/was a major contributing factor that I had to get my head around this temper.
It took a while to teach myself to calm down and walk away from the problem. Make a decision when you're rational. I've never regretted a decision I've made that way.
Takes some practice to take a few breaths and walk lads - totally worth it.
Cheers!
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Upon reflection to the above post, I'll add to it.
When I was learning to calm the f down and chilling about my anger with people, I looked inside myself and asked myself this question: How did I contribute to this situation? It's all too easy to put the blame on someone else, it takes action and reaction. Not always the other persons fault.
You've got to be honest with yourself first guys. Part of my "tool" kit for dealing with crap.
I'm winning this battle, not over yet by a long mile.
Cheers!