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Originally Posted by asagaai
Interesting articles.
The aspect of the lady nagging (due to frustrations and feeling unappreciated/lack of attention) and the bloke pulling away feeling resentment and also feeling unappreciated and drifting into a separate life scenario resonates.
Life is tough- finances, work, stress, kids, post birth depression, menopause, mid life crisis, and being human throw in a few "cock ups" to boot.
Amazing that humans are able to stick it out in marriage in the percentages and length that some do.
Most important thing I feel is finding a partner who has some wisdom, empathy and a sense of humor. Because as sure as death and taxes all 3 will need to be drawn on to make the marriage survive 
And even though marriage is hard work, it is rewarding and worth it- I feel sorry for those who live like a tortoise going into their shell and not prepared to take the risk of living with another human and decide to live perpetually in self isolation. |
It's interesting you mentioned Empathy. I find empathy (not to be confused with sympathy) is being slowly eroded away by entitlement and selfish pursuits. To be empathetic, one has to put themselves in the other persons shoes and try and imagine what that person is going through and help them through it despite your own feelings at the time. This is a fundamental aspect of marriage as far as Im concerned.
Too many are self absorbed with 'what about me-isms' and not thinking about the other person's interests. Blaming the other side for their poor behavior. It takes
BOTH of the people in the marriage to work at this, not just one. Being empathetic sometimes involves having the ability to be humble too. You would be amazed with how many relationships could do with that.