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Old 09-06-2006, 09:19 PM   #15
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It's a shocking feeling, isn't it mate?

I've been broken up for nearly three months now after nearly six years of a relationship.

You will find LOTS of spare time, and I mean LOTS. I found it hard to occupy myself sometimes (many times), but forced myself to do stuff I wouldn't normally do. Everytime someone wanted to do something - no matter my mood - I'd jump at the chance. I started hitting the gym regularly and running (gotta get the single body happening ;)), going out to places I normally couldn't be bothered, spending a lot more time with friends etc. I figured it was a time to explore.

My best thing was talking to others - in particular two (female) friends of mine. My mates would listen but didn't quite understand how I felt, but the girls know all about the mooshy stuff!!

In the end I told myself I couldn't keep living the past. Look forward and say to yourself it's for the best. I constantly reminded myself that she was going to be the one missing out (as conceited as it sounds), and no one is going to stop me living a happy and fun life.

To be honest, I'm very sceptical of relationships now and am expecting to meet someone amazing..... And I know that could be a long time.

Chin up mate, talk to people. My friends and family were an enormous help and I wouldn't be like I am now without them.

I gave her some space (which I think anyone should do to begin with - mainly for yourself as to not jump into something you might regret) because she said "I don't know what I'm doing, I can see us being together one day blah blah." But from what I learnt, that false hope was because of her own insecurities of having something else not working out (and no, they didn't).

In the end it was just screwing with my mind and taking advantage of me. I had to stop talking to her to stop falling into the same trap, over and over again. I just wish I did it sooner because I got on with my life better and easier. Looking at her now, I'm in the better position and she's made the mistake. Too bad.

Geeze, I could write a novel so I'll end here!

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