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Thought I'd also share something I've learnt.Life doesn't really get any better the older you get I've just found you get stronger as you get older to deal with things you once found absolutely the worst thing ever!I've also found that life is like a battery you cannot have a positive without a negative or a negative without a positive or it just won't work, It all balances out. If life was 100 positive then it would be rather pointless wouldn't it. You'd never learn. never change and never grow to become a better version of yourself. Anyway, Some might agree with what I've said and some might not and that's ok.
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No one wants to talk about these topics, but when the grim event happens, there seems to be a stigma around an apparent "easy way out". I watched this happen in real time as news spread about a family's co-worker taking his own life and leaving two young children behind. Terms like "selfish" and "easy way out" really help no one in this situation, and all I could think of was how lost that young man would have felt, not at the apparent selfishness of his actions. And agree with you about males being stigmatized. In no way do I condone certain negative male-dominated behaviors, but its to the point now where being male is almost a "guilty till proven innocent" deal. And you see this permeating the entire of society. Perhaps the "warriors" out there advocating for female rights should have a little think about the adverse effect it can have on the male population that ISNT a rapist, an aggressive pig or objectifier. Probably said too much. I also agree that everyone needs to find their own coping mechanisms. In my case, the path I took started with a GP who I trusted and was comfortable approaching, which in turn led to seeing a therapist who I also trust. Has this solved all of my problems? Not at all, I will always need "mental health maintenance". Before though, I was otherwise just coping in silence. Now, I have avenues to let it out, sometimes it takes me a little deeper, sometimes it affirms the progress I have made. As I said at the start, I hope I haven't dragged something up that has hit a nerve, I would never intend to do that. Be well.
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The depression? It's usually a snowball effect from something I have absorbed, I'm far too sensitive for my own good. There are some specific points I know for sure contribute, but I'm not comfortable outlining those here.
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what is really frustrating in my world right now is split between the people who are truly convinced that "talking" to a "professional" will somehow make all the problems go away, and the people who claim to care, when the reality is that simply knowing about where your head is at overwhelms them to the point where they blame you and then turn their back on you.
Right now, the world can consider it a good thing that I have a senior cat who has been abandoned before, and I dont want him to go through that again.
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kudos anyone posting personal challenges, we meaning us males have held far too much inside for decades let alone centuries.
We've moved on a little, least some let out their issues bit by bit, thats some healing right there imo. Yes the stigma of the past to never show weakness or speak out has been a massive anvil. You got to be able to speak to someone at least to let out, vent even. Hard to correct whats broken but at least to try is worth it. Interceptor, you know when you mention the people who claim to care is can be 2ways. One yep they really DGAF and to me the other side the ones who show care maybe don't have an idea/understanding how to help. My wife goes through nowadays some fuzzy minded mental health challenges. I obviously care but have no idea how to help. I say something and sometimes she takes it completely opposite and attacks me how/why did I say that. I put my hands up, or honey sorry I really have NO idea what to advise or help. Make an oppointment to talk to someone, though like me she then thinks shrinks ? Talking to these so called pros sometimes I feel they open wounds that don't need to be openned anymore, far better leaving them in the vault. Deal with the now what going on not the past - it may work for some and others not. its a double edged sword this stuff got to say. Damned if you do damned if you dont.
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Here's a scenario as a parent in todays world we are learning more as time moves on...and possibly some Dads here have gone through similar.
My wife's anxiety traits has passed onto our eldest son who is 32yrs (a luvely quiet fella and been one of those kids you never needed to worry of ) been with his now wife for over 8yrs. A couple who will be great parents but for..... She has many probs not being able to conceave so now its been the IVF pathway the last 5mths or so. They are on their 1st mortgage not long ago, both work obviously and the costs involved here add more and more strain to couples who dream of having their own fam. My boy is a worrier and after months of tests involved the good news is they are cleared moving to start IVF injections etcetc...... I have my fingers and toes crossed in the end success occurs later this year for if not I know my boy is going to go down a hole mentally as much as he'll try to look strong and for his better half. Naturally me and Mum will be there for them both but I fear what I may have to deal with if its not a success. Anyway something off my chest, shouldn't worry about what hasn't happenned yet as they say. My wifes work colleague's daughter has been trying for years with no luck the poor thing probably why I have in my mind worries.
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Last week, a friend and mentor ended his battle.
Saddest part for me is that it literally came out of the blue, everyone I know that knew him is stunned, nobody knows why, nobody knew he had any troubles, though clearly he did. Literally, one day he was there, the next morning he wasnt. The silence beforehand has everyone questioning themselves, there is a LOT of what if's. Quote:
Unfortunately, talking to the "professionals" rarely, if ever actually fixes the problems at fault, and more often that not simply gets you medicated.
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I’m sorry that you lost a valued friend.
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Condolences Interceptor - real sad to read.
Agree mate who can you turn to even when those you know can’t understand. It’s a terrible cycle. Hope you’re doing ok. Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk
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