Dating 2006 - A girls view

[XR6Gal]

there's a thread here on age groups: http://www.fordforums.com.au/showthread.php?t=53896

[FordFan86]

20, act/feel anywhere from 16-30 at times.

[BlueXr8]

18/m/south east of vic

[LTDHO]

Originally Posted by Ghia5L

I'm 13/F/frankston :newangel:

Ha ha.

You don't look it!

[Van D]

18, and male the last time I checked.

[crannersEL]

That picture is soo true FordFan86 hahaha

[mcflux]

Originally Posted by EFFalcon

Frankston... rofl
so you're local Ghia5L ;)

Be gentle! (this line proves I'm not from frankston)

[XRchic]

Originally Posted by EF_Frmnt

hahaha seems popinfresh an i have the same father somehow.. he does that regularly an constantly tells anyone who will listen the 'stream of gorgeous girls' in an out of our house. he claims total responsibility.

And to XRchic... chic is actually spelt with a k at the end of it ;) i know i know chics dont like smartasses.... :P

Chick = baby chicken.

Chic = slang term for female, girl etc....

Common mistake.

Hehehehe!

[XR8MAD]

Originally Posted by FordFan86

20, act/feel anywhere from 16-30 at times.

good pic fordfan!!! :hihi:


Hey whats wrong with ol Franga!!!!! LOL

Just because my house has automatic defences at the front and 24 hour security!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[mcflux]

Originally Posted by XR8MAD

Hey whats wrong with ol Franga!!!!! LOL

Just because my house has automatic defences at the front and 24 hour security!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

is that due to a 13yo co-tenant?

[EF_Frmnt]

Originally Posted by XRchic

Chick = baby chicken.

Chic = slang term for female, girl etc....

Common mistake.

Hehehehe!

Exactly. Slang term ;) chic in its proper meaning is in relation to fashions or style etc. It is commonly used as a description for a girl but then who says that the correct way is without a k...? it is after all a slang term.

[SVR73]

33 but look early 20's

[XR8MAD]

Originally Posted by Ghia5L

is that due to a 13yo co-tenant?

yer U got me dude!!!! LOL

[Bucket]

22 and In Perth..and male..almost forgot that bit :-P

[nugget378]

Originally Posted by BlueXr8

yer but i bet it looks trick now...

Fabio how flatering lol jokes i wish

Na still rusty, yeah just a little joke

[XRchic]

Originally Posted by EF_Frmnt

Exactly. Slang term ;) chic in its proper meaning is in relation to fashions or style etc. It is commonly used as a description for a girl but then who says that the correct way is without a k...? it is after all a slang term.

I think you may have missed my point... the use of slang (correctly spelled) or terminology or any correct use of language does not imply that the writer is a moron or lazy... as opposed to people who use net/sms language, exceptionally bad grammar, spelling and punctuation on the forums.... its just a really bad thing for the image when these days, blokes claim that girls dont want them and blame a lot of things. With all the competition out there, for the nice girls, why risk it by coming across as a moron because you are lazy? Impress the girls with clothes, sure? But impress them with other things such as personality, sense of humour, strength of character, confidence and intelligence!

The way you write says a lot about yourself, as much as any clothes will. And it is a lot cheaper to write well, than to dress expensively.

[Group C]

poison ivy... this might sound a bit silly, but in MY experiences, the harder you look for something, the harder it is to find.
by this, i mean, we all know that when you are trying to find something, like the TV remote, you know you put it down 5 minutes ago and now you can't remember where you put it, and you won't find it when you set out too. you always find it when you aren't looking for it, and then the words "Ohh, thats where it is!!" come out.
i've found that my love-life was the same (i'm now a VERY happily married man of nearly 8 years, to the BEST girl ever!!)(suk, suk...). i was MADLY chasing a girl for 18 months before i'd even met my now-wife. the 'old girl' would lead me on when it suited her, then forget me when it suited also. i did EVERYTHING she ever wanted, and got used because of it.
this put me off the 'dating scene' for a while.
then i met my wife, Nicole.
i WASN'T looking for anyone at the time, and nor was she, but we hit it off straight away, as friends. our relationship developed over about 6 months till we went out together, and the rest is history.

anyway, the point of my rambling is that (and PLEASE don't take this personally. it's just my view...) you might be simply trying too hard to find a guy.
maybe you should take a step back for a while, and let love find you.
it worked for us, and a number of our friends too have had the same experiences too.

and it works when we all can't find the TV remote!!

BTW, i think you sound very nice, and i'd make the effort if i was still available.

GOOD LUCK SWEETHEART!!
Brett

[nugget378]

Originally Posted by Group C

poison ivy... this might sound a bit silly, but in MY experiences, the harder you look for something, the harder it is to find.
by this, i mean, we all know that when you are trying to find something, like the TV remote, you know you put it down 5 minutes ago and now you can't remember where you put it, and you won't find it when you set out too. you always find it when you aren't looking for it, and then the words "Ohh, thats where it is!!" come out.
i've found that my love-life was the same (i'm now a VERY happily married man of nearly 8 years, to the BEST girl ever!!)(suk, suk...). i was MADLY chasing a girl for 18 months before i'd even met my now-wife. the 'old girl' would lead me on when it suited her, then forget me when it suited also. i did EVERYTHING she ever wanted, and got used because of it.
this put me off the 'dating scene' for a while.
then i met my wife, Nicole.
i WASN'T looking for anyone at the time, and nor was she, but we hit it off straight away, as friends. our relationship developed over about 6 months till we went out together, and the rest is history.

anyway, the point of my rambling is that (and PLEASE don't take this personally. it's just my view...) you might be simply trying too hard to find a guy.
maybe you should take a step back for a while, and let love find you.
it worked for us, and a number of our friends too have had the same experiences too.

and it works when we all can't find the TV remote!!

BTW, i think you sound very nice, and i'd make the effort if i was still available.

GOOD LUCK SWEETHEART!!
Brett

Spot on,exactly the same for me.
I found an angel when I least expected it, and at the time I was very happy being single.
Best advice so far,just take it easy,and it will find you if it's meant to happen,and from where you least expect it usually.

Originally Posted by XRchic

Most chics dont like blokes who cannot spell and use punctuation and grammar properly as it is an INDICATION of below average intelligence.... regardless of what clothes he wears or what club he goes to.... Its an overall package thing!

Whilst over emphazing people that for what ever reason are unable to to this to a higher level, shows disrespect and snobbiness... ;)

I take your point though (as you pointed out to me recently) I am hopeless at all of what you have made mention and agree 100% with your statements in so far as a little effort does indeed go a long way (hence I have spell checker enabled DOH!)

but I have met people that can do this perfectly, and frankly sure book smart, but brain dead in allot of other areas.

I have yet to meet a tradie that is great with these things, but Jesus how they build a house or fix a car amazes me..

Do people think that because you can't spell or use grammar, but know how to apply the words and better yet UNDERSTAND the concept of there meaning are really less intelligent? I am not so sure. I'd love to be perfect I wish I was better at all that no real excuses for me.

Wanted: Single female with bad spelling and grammar!

dam thread of the century!!! Poison Ivy you rule! GREAT question, great responses great AFF debate. and not a poll insight!! ;)

[pauljh74]

I was going out with someone till a year ago. Looking back on it she wasn't worth the effort. She wanted a pet that she could train to do what she wanted, not a boyfriend. I usually spent an afternoon & evening every week with her, but sometimes she would get pi**ed off and I was made to feel guilty for not wanting to spend my whole weekend with her. My work sees me finish at 8pm or later during the week, with a late start, so I pretty much don't have much of a social life after work during the week and it has been that way for more than 10 years. So that leaves my weekend - part of which I spend doing chores, cleaning the car or exercise. So there goes a good part of one day of the weekend. Combined with her living 60kms away on the other side of Melbourne and she had no car or licence, that limited the time we spent together. I went through at least a quarter of a tank a week just driving around picking her up, driving her home or going out somewhere. On top of that while we shared costs, I'd pay more than my share most of the time, didn't have a problem with it and she called me cheap when we split! Good thing we split before the petrol prices skyrocketed!

It might just be me, but sometimes I don't want to spend my spare time with anyone - girlfriend or mates. So for now I'm content being single. Now I'm working a second job to get ahead in life to buy a house and my spare time is now even more valuable - I can't see myself looking for another girlfriend unless I stumble across a real keeper. I'm just gonna look after myself and work towards some personal goals. It's much easier.

I've previously read somewhere about the nice guys only getting to be "friends" with girls - where the nice guy gets stuck as a friend and nothing more. She says he'd make a great boyfriend, but never wants to take him on, but whinges about all the dropkicks that mess her around to him.

The person wrote that basically it's like going for a job, being told that you're perfect in every way, but we're not going to hire you. We'll keep your resume on file as a benchmark against other applicants, present and future. Then we'll hire some guy who is wrong for the position and when he stuffs up, we'll ring you up and complain how bad he is, but still won't give you the job.

[Group C]

Originally Posted by pauljh74

It might just be me, but sometimes I don't want to spend my spare time with anyone - girlfriend or mates.

it's not just you mate.
i think everyone is the same on this 1.

as i wrote before, i'm very happy, but i still need time to myself, without Nicole, our fantastic little 5yo daughter, other family, friends, whatever.
and Nicole is the same. we have our things we do all together, as a couple : , and alone.
you need some time to get done what YOU want done, and the time alone can also help clear your mind of all the other stuff going on around you.

also, the old saying of 'abscene makes the heart grow fonder' is VERY true when we are apart.
i know i appreciate her and junior MUCH MUCH more when i see them after being away for a few days with work, so some time alone is sometimes a good thing.

just my opinion anyway.

ohh, thanks nugget!! most of the stuff i write is dribble, but sometimes (be it VERY rarely), i make some sense to someone!!

[Barry_v]

I drive 50km across town to see my gf, takes me over an hour. and because of poor apprentice pay I cant afford to drive my V8, so I borrow my dads lpg econovan.

is there any sacrifice greater to a V8 lover than to drive a LPG I4. I think not. AND WHERES MY FRIGGIN MEDAL.

[BAUTE]

well I read most of this thread (skipped a few pages in the middle), and have to admit I find the whole thing amusing. now the BA ute and I currently reside in canberra, now canberra has a lot of things going for it but I have come to the conclusion that the single girl population isn't one of those things. The few times I have been bothered to start a conversation with someone new the first two questions seem to be what do you drive and how much do you earn. now if the first question is because they are genuinely interested in cars then all well and good but it seems to be connected to the 2nd question more often than not.

so what did I decide to do? I gave up, I have a great group of friends (males and females) and we go out, have a blast, play pool, trivia or whatever. life is easier, has much lower stress (currently building a house so plenty of stress).

but will leave you with a few thoughts, chivallry isn't dead, but few women seem to appriciate it. and without a doubt women are generally getting shallower, its not about the guy, its about the car, the money, the clothes. guys are not fully self supporting handbags

Read about this on another forum and general consensus was it was Canberra related, but seems it's almost across the board. (aust wide) from this forum if you want to read the ENTIRE thread on other forum let me know IT goes on for about 45pages I think. the same question asked but more females answered on the other forum.. good read. backs up what you have said. I have NFI.. maybe is a male/female shared experince.

Can all the decent males and females step to the left, creeps and b1tches to the right!

[Smoked]

Meh, the entire race is complicated.

Im happy single and have been so for 2yrs now. Got sick of rejection after rejection, and whilst im not a super good looking guy, i have plenty of confidence and am always myself, women these days just dont know what they want.

[ltd]

poison ivy you sound like a really decent girl, the kind I wish was around when I was actively dating.
Am still single now but at 32 I have allowed work and other commitments to consume my time. The whole casual fling thing is really immature, I have a couple of mates who are doing that now and I can honestly say it disgusts me to think that these blokes are lying their asses off to get some girl into bed. Childish in the extreme to the point where they tell lies about who they are and what they do.

Anyhow, I don't believe chivalry is dead; or old fashioned values.
There are decent people out there I'm sure but I have yet to find any. My biggest problem was the parents of the girl always liked me and I guess that scared them off. Still bump into alot of the parents to this day. Talk about awkward.

[Bucket]

I'm 22 and i will live by the code of Chivalry. I dont care if its harder or whatever. Its the way i've been bought up and I'm happy with that
Unfortunately when i was younger, parents would encourage their daughters (the ones i knew) to um? socialise with me...and i think that whole thing turns them off..i know when my parents recommended girls to me when i was say 16/17 It turned me off them...some how, them having a hand in my decision to date this or that girl really didnt appeal to me...i dont know why...maybe an independence thing

[normxb]

Originally Posted by Group C

poison ivy... this might sound a bit silly, but in MY experiences, the harder you look for something, the harder it is to find.
GOOD LUCK SWEETHEART!!
Brett

Group C is spot on...
Being an "Old Phart" 50+ , I know exactly what he means , those days we went out in groups to pic's , car races ,speedway, picnics (old fashioned these days), odd couples would "link up" but nothing special. I went out with a few girls ,mainly in groups , nothing "clicked" . ...at 22 , one of my mates said "going to Wallygong for the day, coming" , oh Ok ! His G/F took one of her friends , not a set-up , just a drive. Got back to Parramatta , went to "Happy Grannies" (Don't know if anyone remembers it , Pancake place in those days). Mmm This bird seems OK !!!! Next day got Phone No off mate & rang her , Date Following Friday , did the proper thing , Dressed neat , Knocked on door , opened car door etc. went to pictures , took her home. Expected nothing.. (her mum thought I was a Hoodlem because I had hair passed my shoulders AND "Bellbottom Pants" (OH Horror) :
Got engaged 12 mths later & Married 6mths after that. 28 Yrs later , we're still married , 3 kids . AND still talking to each other :

Guess I'm lucky , out of our group (16-18 of us) we're the only ones still married once ( 2 of the group have been married 5 times). And I ain't good lookin' 6'1" & 8 1/2 stone (53kg , skinny as a rake) Wife is "Pitt Level" (arm pit) 5'... :

What we have found...
1/ Be Yourself , if you try and impress someone it will "backfire"
2/ Honesty , honesty , honesty , trust , trust , trust.
3/ Be patient , the right person WILL come along.
4/ Treat each other with respect (if he doesn't , he's not the right one)
5/ Give & take
6/ Don't argue , you can sort any problems out later when both are calm
7/ Give each other room , each needs their own time & space.
8/ No kids too soon , live a bit first. (we waited 9 yrs before our first one).got to get to know each other as well.

Like Group C said " You seem like a very nice young lady with GOOD values "

Be patient !!!!!!!!!!!! You deserve someone who will appreciate you for who you are . And there are guys out there with good values too... :

PS Pubs & Clubs are not the scene , I've worked in them as a Muso for 30 yrs and "it ain't pretty" sometimes . Social events , Car club meets (if you like cars) and quiet parties are a better place.

i realy like hearing the older guys talking.... well done NormXb. (dam back to work again!)

[divine_afg]

Belive it or not i just read this whole thread 9 pages and loved every bit of it. i actually left quite few important things that i had to do and took the time to read this thread beacause everything that everyone has said is right 100% in their own ways and yes there are lots of "good" guys and gals out there and i believe in the old saying that true relationships are made in haven, be patient there could be a suprise on the next corner.
Now for those guys out there who think that they have come second last or have given up for what ever reason, imo its false beacause you are who you are, have the confidence to show others and your self of what your really made off and dont be afraid to show it. If you like someone approach her because that one opportunity of finding that someone you've missed out on. and remember that in life ..........
"It's better to be hated for what you are then to be loved for something you not"

cheers